15 July 2009 @ 07:42 pm
Because it's been a while since I used this soapbox  
ETA: Via nineweaving, Readercon's teen policy is a hotel issue, not a concom one--and a new hotel is being sought out. Which makes me feel better about the whole business.

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Nevermind any of the other discussions going on about related matters online ... did I know Readercon had an actively teen-unfriendly membership policy? One that requires 14-year-olds to be labeled "ReaderKids" and stay in a parent's shadow, and that ghettoizes even 17-year-olds with a special "ReaderTeen" membership designation?

Do other cons do this, too? If so, no wonder teens are choosing to gather places other than traditional cons, and no wonder fandom is greying to the point that I'm on its youngish end.

We're a genre made up of people who were all generally once bright, precocious, passionate, intelligent teenagers. As such, we should truly know better--we should remember better--and should have a lot more respect for those who are there now.

I don't want to be protected and kept apart from teens at the cons I go to. I want to meet them as equals so that we can engage in conversations together, the same as with everyone else. That equal-footing thing is one of the things our genre always struck me as doing well, both in our stories and outside of them.

There are enough walls between teens and adults in the everyday world--genre fiction, in my experience, in one of the things that best tears these walls down, at least sometimes. We should be embracing that, not putting new walls up instead.

(Link found via shadesong's post on welcoming teens to cons rather than alienating them.)
 
 
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mondermonder on July 16th, 2009 03:34 am (UTC)
Goodness, One of my most treasured memories as a writer is the first local con I went to not knowing ANYTHING about what submitting manuscripts meant and what to do or expect, and having several much older writers take me under their wings and shepherd me through the experience. I was all of 14 at the time and learned so much, I remember someone loaned me a book on norse runes that I never found them to return.

As a mom I know there seems to be hostility at times towards children in different groups, so if you're not especially into going alone and leaving the rest of the family looking at the walls, you drop out to find things you can do as a family.

(And this is not opening the can of worms as to behavior good or bad or people behaving without common sense or good manners)

Just a generalization...It seems to many kids are now an intrusion rather than a teaching opportunity.
Janni Lee Simner: arctic foxjanni on July 16th, 2009 04:35 am (UTC)
The division of the world into "entirely-kid-centered" and "no-kids-allowed" places feels like part of the problem. I think we need more places where kids can just be part of the larger scene, neither the center of attention nor excluded ... and of course, we also need to remember that kids and teens are not the same, and that there's a vast difference between an 8 year old and a 14 year old ... amazing how often that gets forgotten.
mondermonder on July 16th, 2009 03:37 pm (UTC)
I agree. While it is lovely to have those safe kid spaces to go sometimes. It's much nicer to be able to go to things we can all learn and enjoy. Plus, how do you pass on the wide and wonderful world when it's been marked no children allowed?