09 February 2008 @ 07:08 pm
Dream horses, real horses  
Hiked out to Bridal Wreath Falls in the Rincon Mountains with [info]jamiam today. It was a perfect day for hiking--an achingly blue desert sky, lots of icy water at the falls, and the feel of the warm desert air on my arms all the way back.

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SB of the Girls Horse Club has a lovely, lovely post about making the transition from longing for dream horses to making room in your life for real horses.

There comes a time in every girls life where they have to make the jump from fantasy to reality: fantasies of that coal black stallion that races only for you; of being a princess on a snowy white horse; of a dream farm already planned out with the horses names and breeds and colors already picked and placed. The reality is that not every horse is the big and strong black or the soft and sweet white. The in-betweens are the ones that seem to touch most peoples lives.

My dream horse wasn't coal black, it was pure white (it was also able to fly), but otherwise, I know the feeling SB is getting at well. I remember the first time, at Girl Scout camp, that I mounted a real horse--and how disappointed I was at the slow work of learning to work with my horse at a walk, at how riding felt nothing like flying. Real riding was dusty and hot and unromantic, though I know now that like any other skill, something of the romance comes back when you take the time to work at it.

But no real horse can ever quite match that first dream horse. So I keep my own white, flying, nameless horse somewhere in the back of my thoughts, always there when I need her, even now, as I navigate this rough-edged, real-horse, glorious-in-its-own-way world.

Madelaina of The Girls Horse Club also said some really nice things about the Phantom Rider Books. The comments especially made me smile and smile.
 
 
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Maggie Stiefvater[info]m_stiefvater on February 10th, 2008 02:26 am (UTC)
Sigh . . . yes. All of my dream horses were massive creatures with hair bushing out around their hooves with unpronouncable Welsh names.
Janni Lee Simner: glitter[info]janni on February 10th, 2008 09:14 pm (UTC)
But could they fly? :-)
Maggie Stiefvater[info]m_stiefvater on February 10th, 2008 11:13 pm (UTC)
Nay (neigh?), mine were grounded. Some did have horns however.
Hannah Wolf Bowen: Tucker[info]buymeaclue on February 10th, 2008 02:56 am (UTC)
...you know, I can't remember ever having a perfect dream horse. I must have. I know I dreamed about different horses that I could have. But I don't remember that one perfect shining magical horse. Maybe I was just too desperate to get my hands on a horse--any horse--so long as it was real.
Janni Lee Simner: glitter[info]janni on February 10th, 2008 09:16 pm (UTC)
I think a real horse was so far out of my reach as a kid it never occurred to me to dream of having one for real ... somehow I had the notion that only rich people could ride horses, until I went to Scout camp. I think dreaming about real horses is a fine thing. It's like with people--there's lots to be said for real. :-)
dancinghorse: Gorgeous[info]dancinghorse on February 10th, 2008 07:25 am (UTC)
Some real horses are better than dream horses. They're real and solid and alive, and they invite you into their world.

And yes, if you work at it, there are moments when it is like flying. Those moments keep you coming back, day after day--hoping for just one more.
Janni Lee Simner: glitter[info]janni on February 10th, 2008 09:19 pm (UTC)
Yes--I'd guess that real horses, like real children, get to chime in with their own perspective and takes and insights, don't they? Dream horses can't bring anything to the relationship that we ourselves don't already have to bring there. :-)

I guess lots of things have their like-flying moments, but they don't come at the start, but only after you put the time in.
El Munadi[info]elmunadi on February 19th, 2008 02:15 am (UTC)
Sorry, please excuse the tracks... (fan of Kristine Smith's who found his way here based on cogent commentary of yours in her blog...)

I grew up in Tucson - used to love hiking the Rincons in winter, and going up Sabino Creek on known clear days (to avoid potential flash floods)... and there's nothing as centering as sitting up on Thimble peak on a cold, clear day. I kinda envy you for still living there...

Cheers,

- e.m.
Janni Lee Simner: saguaro[info]janni on February 19th, 2008 03:00 am (UTC)
No apologies needed--you're quite welcome here! :-)

You grew up in a wonderful place. I've been here 15 years now, and still feel incredibly lucky to get to live here.